Heres an example illustrating the pitfalls of an instant relationship. Deana met Sam at a workshop. At first glance, he had many of the wonderful qualities she desired;, charming, attractive, smart, entrepreneurial, and more. They were comfortable with each other immediately, talked about everything, and started spending all their free time together.

Looking back, Deana noticed signs of trouble early. Sam said he liked outdoor activities, yet wouldnt agree to any. Deana didnt like the way he treated other people. Sam wanted all her free time and Deana had other things that needed her attention which caused a lot of arguments. She had no luck discussing this with him it was Sams way or the highway.

Once Deana had a strong heart connection that felt so right, her objectivity went out the window and she choose to ignore the red flags. She feared talking to Sam because she felt it might endanger their relationship. Eventually things came to a head and both the magic and relationship dissolved. Today, Deana understands the importance of pacing herself and vows to spend more time observing before falling for someone so swiftly.

Choices about love are often made on a strictly emotional basis. Yet, wouldnt everyone benefit from relying on the conscious mind as well? By approaching dating as data gathering, you have a chance to stay more level-headed and balanced which helps you avoid mistakes by not jumping in heart first.

Next time you meet a great guy or gal, consider data gathering before you get too emotionally attached. Date with your head and not just your heart to increase your potential of finding someone whos a wonderful match and the right person for you.