I would not be married today if it were not for the choice that I made after I found out my husband had been cheating on me. You see, Im one of those people who take their marriage and wedding vows very seriously. In the days following my discovery I was an emotional wreck and I couldnt figure out how in the world I was ever going to be able to move past that depression and I contemplated a divorce.

However; what I chose to do was work on some things within myself (fix what was wrong with me) and at the same time I chose to act in a loving manner towards my husband. Well, wouldnt you guess it, after making that choice and following that choice up with actions those loving feelings started to return.

Love ebbs and flows just like any other emotion that we have. Each emotion plays an important roll in our lives and the heady in love feeling has its place in our dating years as well as in our married years. However; it isnt going to be there all the time! One day youre high up on the mountain and the next your way low in the valley.

So, do I degrade love when I say that love is a choice? No I dont, I actually take it up a notch because Im saying that love is so important to me and to our marriages that when we dont feel it we must make a choice to continue acting in a loving manner until the loving feelings return.

Although my marriage is far from perfect and I certainly have many days where I forget to act in a loving manner I can only be thankful that I didnt make the decision three years ago to leave my husband. You see if I had of made that decision I wouldnt have our third beautiful daughter that has been a perfect addition to our family.

Im not going to say that everything happens for a reason (although it just might); instead Ill say that you can turn ANY bad thing into a good thing. For me that was becoming a better person and helping other people who are going through marital crises.